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Blogger fik at vide, hun var for fed til sin kæreste. Hendes comeback er perfekt

Fedmeaktivist blev fat-shamet, fordi hendes kæreste ikke er tyk.

Melissa Gibson er fed. Det er hendes kæreste ikke. Ergo hører de ikke sammen.

I hvert fald ifølge en masse perfide kommentarer til et billede, som Melissa lagde op på Instagram, hvor den amerikanske kvinde blogger om kropspositivisme.

Det er det her billede, der er tale om:

Som man kan se, er Melissas kæreste Jonathan noget slankere om hende. Det var der mange, som ikke kunne rumme.

Og det udbasunerede de i kommentarfeltet, hvor Melissa fik at vide, at hun skulle gå i fitness og spise mindre, og at hun ikke fortjente sin tynde kæreste, som måtte have en fedme-fetich, siden han gad at være sammen med hende.

Vi har spurgt tre mænd, der tænder på tykke kvinder, hvad de synes om programmet Tykke Ida

Det fik kropsaktivisten til tasterne, hvor hun forfattede et yderst rammende svar på tiltale.

When taking a picture in a sparkly dress next to the man you love makes people comment about your body, question your relationship, make judgements about him for loving you. Our relationship is political. Even though we both know how natural and right it feels. And if the world won’t just let us be, we will keep fighting for our love, for our space, for our right to be seen, accepted without question, and celebrated. In all honesty it’s silly to think it bothers people so much, but when privileged people base their value on attraction and relationships, it results in the plethora of relationships that look like mine being erased and delegitimized. Like somehow I don’t deserve him or our love isn’t real. We are exactly what each other wants, and guess what, our bodies are a part of that. It’s not a abnormal or a fetish. It’s simply natural. So while you insist on yelling your insecurities and bigotry at me, realize I’m not playing the game you play any longer. I’m not playing by your rules. And it’s honestly sad you still are. 2018 is the year for Love that is not defined by weight, age, ability, genitals, gender, sexuality. Not defined by race or ethnicity or religion. We’re having more fun this way anyway ;). #love #bf #relationshipgoals #fatbabe #visiblewomen #louisville #newyearseve #2018 #nye #debshops ………. ALSO THIS DRESS IS FROM @debshops FOR ALL THOSE THAT ASKED. Remember I always tag where I got my clothing in the picture.

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“Vi ved begge, hvor naturligt og rigtigt det føles. Og hvis verden ikke vil lade os være, vil vi blive ved med at kæmpe for vores kærlighed, vores rum, vores ret til at blive set og accepteret uden spørgsmålstegn,” skrev Melissa Gibson, der kommer fra Louisiana, Kentucky.

Amalie delte et billede af sine brugte trusser. Så blev hendes insta lukket

“Vi er præcis, hvad vi hver især ønsker, og tro det eller ej, men vores kroppe er en del af dét. Det er ikke unormalt eller en fetich. Det er naturligt. Så mens du insisterer på at råbe dine fordomme og usikkerheder efter mig, skal du vide, at jeg ikke spiler dit spil længere. Og det er ærligt talt sørgeligt, at du stadig gør det. 2018 er året, hvor kærlighed ikke skal defineres af vægt, alder, køn, seksualitet, race eller religion.”

Opslaget gik viralt og blev overstrømmet med likes og positive kommentarer. Men ikke alle har fattet budskabet. Melissa hævder at være blevet bombarderet med beskeder fra fremmede, som nægter at tro på, at Melissa og Jonathans kærlighed kan være ægte.

‘Tykke Ida’ gider ikke folk, der skriver “ku’ godt” til hende

En af afsenderne får følgende svada med på vejen:

“Den her person tror ikke på, at en fed person kan blive elsket af en mand som Jonathan. Og vreden fik vedkommende til at stalke min partner og mig og komme med grundløse antagelser om vores forhold.”

“Det er et symptom på den kultur, vi har skabt, som dehumaniserer, underkender og miskrediterer fede menneskers skønhed, visdom, styrke, mod, kærlighed, intelligens, arbejde og liv. FUCK THE HATERS.”

This is the manifestation of fat phobia. The belief that my fatness means my partner couldn’t love me. That my celebration of this love is interpreted as a call for attention and an obsession. That calls my integrity and authenticity into question. This is nothing less than messages filled with questioning meant to intimidate and threaten me. The demands for explanation an erasure of my humanity. This person believes that as a fat person I could not possibly be loved by a person like Johnathan. Their anger resulted in them stalking my partner and I. Making assumptions about our relationship based on nothing. I mean, @lifeofmellyandme exists. They meant to taunt me. Not believing that I know my own truth, that I know how love feels when it’s real. Contrary to what you believe, fat people do not owe you an explanation. Fat people do not need to prove their story by being silent about your threats. Fat people do not need to put up with their dehumanization by those who do not see their value. Fat people are loved, are beautiful, are strong, and are speaking out. And BTW talking about your ridiculousness is not a shout out. You are simply a sad, creepy, angry person hiding behind a private Instagram account with a bio that says “positive vibes always” and who spent time stalking a couple you do not even know (or maybe you do) and who blocks me after being an ass, unblocks me the next day just to say more assery and then blocks me again. This is fat phobia. This is not funny. This is a symptom of the culture we’ve created that dehumanizes, dismisses, and discredits the amazing beauty, wisdom, strength, bravery, love, intelligence, work, and lives of fat people. So yeah sure, FUCK THE HATERS, but more than that, root out the fat phobia in you, change your language that places fat people as less than, stop questioning the ability for fat people to be experts on their own experience and their own bodies. Educate yourself about health, about the abilities of fat people, stop playing into made up laws of attraction. Get angry at a society that silences and dismisses us. (And BTW my job is fully aware of my Social Media presence and see it as a positive).

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